Saturday, June 2, 2012

Can we split love?

How do i love thee? Let me count the ways. Forget Browning and all her permutations of love. What about counting the amount of people you can love at once? Whatever number that is, surely it can't take more than the fingers on one hand to sum them up. Sure, you love your partner, your parents, your dog and your best friend. But is it possible to be in love with more than one person at the same time?

I'm gonna say 'no' on that, simply because I'd like to think if you truly, really loved someone surely you wouldn't wanna compromise them by developing feelings for another person. I mean developing because while lust at first sight happens often enough, love at first sight is rare or perhaps just mythical. It takes time to build up all-out, heart-beating fast, can't-get-you-off-my-mind love. 

Besides, if it was true love you felt the second you laid your eyes on this other person and you knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that you were meant to be with them, wouldn't that make your current relationship moot anyway? Wouldn't all the other loves that came before that fade away quietly into your past? A crush? Sure. I think you can be in love and still have a crush on someone else. You could even be in love and still lust for another. These things, I have no trouble wrapping my head around. But to be madly in love with more than one person, I'd say a big, giant 'No'.

Practically speaking, it seems difficult to make it work. Unless you and your multiple objects of affection subscribe to the lifestyle of polyamory, it's gonna be hard to reconcile two loves into one life.

Don't you think???