Tuesday, November 29, 2011

There's no secret

What does happiness mean? There's a lot of searching going on these days for the elusive emotion of "being happy" --where do we find it, how do we create it, even what it actually is. Happiness is not just for a lucky few who were born with it. Happiness is not something we can reach out and touch or put in the refrigerator and take a sip when we need it. Yet from the images bombarding us every day, it's easy to make the mistake that happiness will arrive on our doorstep when we have the latest car, the best clothes, a fancy home, isn't it? It's easy to get caught in the trap of thinking that if we could just find the right person, they'd arrive with a box of happiness attached to his/her hip. And that's where we sometimes get off track. Because the secret is that happiness is simply a by-product of creating and living a life that works, a life that we enjoy -- whatever that is. Happiness comes from doing what we what, where we want to do it, whom we want to do it with.

Happiness starts by believing that we have control over our life; and grows by making choices that will give us a sense of well being, satisfaction. Happiness is about making the best choices we can, about who we spend our time with, how we making our living, how much we learn, what we put into our body. Because when we  feel good about the space we're in, when we're with people we admire and respect and they admire and respect us, when we're working on a project that's meaningful to us -- happiness will shine right through.

And that's no secret. Decide today to stop chasing happiness, and instead choose three things that we love to do, that contribute to our feeling of well-being and satisfaction. Schedule time for them, every day if possible, every week at least. It doesn't have to be for a long time, just 10 minutes a day will help us create the happiness that we're looking for. Guaranteed.

And that's no secret either.